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What to Do When It Happens
Your grab-it-when-you-need-it guide to the 10 situations every HR professional and manager will face. Step-by-step actions, template language, legal checklists, and downloadable checklists — all in one place.
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📋Step-by-Step Guide
1
Clarify your purpose before anything else
Define what outcome you need from this conversation. Is it to share a concern and agree a change? To give feedback? To understand something? Clarity of purpose prevents conversations from drifting into vague, unhelpful territory. Write one sentence: 'By the end of this conversation, I want to have…'
2
Prepare your facts, not your verdict
Gather specific, observable evidence — dates, incidents, witnessed behaviours, impacts on team or work. Do not prepare a list of judgements. Prepare a list of observations. The difference: 'You're negative' (verdict) vs 'In three team meetings this month, you challenged every suggestion made by colleagues without offering an alternative' (observation).
3
Choose the right time, place, and format
Private room. No surprises — give at least 24 hours notice where possible ('I'd like to talk through something with you — can we find 30 minutes this week?'). Not on a Friday. Not at the end of a long day. Not immediately after an incident while emotions are high. Face-to-face wherever possible; video as a second option.
4
Open with intent, not attack
State your purpose clearly and without accusation in the first minute. 'I wanted to talk because I've noticed X and I'm concerned about Y. I want to understand your perspective and agree how we move forward.' This signals honesty, not ambush.
5
Listen more than you talk
After opening, ask an open question and stop talking. 'Can you help me understand what's been happening from your side?' The employee's response often changes everything — context you didn't have, personal circumstances, a different view of the facts. Don't fill silence. Let them speak.
6
Acknowledge before responding
Even when you disagree, acknowledge what you heard. 'I can hear this has been a difficult period for you.' This is not agreement — it is respect. It keeps the conversation collaborative rather than adversarial.
7
Agree clear next steps, in writing
Before closing, agree specific actions, timeframes, and who is responsible for what. Do not close a difficult conversation with 'let's see how things go.' Vague endings create anxiety and ambiguity. Confirm the agreed next steps in a follow-up email the same day.
8
Document promptly
Write a brief factual record of what was discussed and agreed within 24 hours. This protects both parties and creates a foundation for any future formal process if needed.
💬What to Say — Template Language
Opening the conversation
"I wanted to talk with you because I've noticed [specific observation] and I'm concerned about [specific impact]. I'd like to understand your perspective and agree together how we move forward."
Avoid: 'I need to talk to you about a problem.' This creates defensiveness before the conversation begins.
When you're receiving unexpected emotion
"I can see this is bringing up a lot for you and I want to hear it. Can you help me understand what's been happening from your side?"
Pause. Let them speak. Do not rush to reassure or problem-solve in the moment.
Redirecting if the conversation derails
"I hear what you're saying about [X] and I want to come back to that. For now, can we focus on [specific topic]? I want to make sure we get through the most important things today."
Closing and confirming next steps
"To summarise — we've agreed [action 1] by [date], and [action 2] by [date]. I'll send you a summary email today. Is there anything you want to add before we close?"
Common Mistakes to Avoid
✓ Do this
Prepare specific observations, not judgements
Give at least 24 hours notice
Open with your purpose and invite their perspective
Confirm next steps in writing the same day
Allow silence — it creates space for honesty
✗ Never do this
Ambush someone with a 'can I have a quick word now?'
Use sweeping generalisations like 'you always' or 'you never'
Have the conversation when you or they are emotionally heightened
Close without agreed, specific next steps
Share the conversation content with colleagues
⚖️Legal & Compliance — Select Jurisdiction
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
👥Manager vs HR Responsibilities
👥 Manager responsible for
Lead and conduct the conversation
Prepare the factual observations
Follow up with agreed actions
Document immediately after
📋 HR responsible for
Advise on framing, process, and legal obligations
Review documentation before filing
Coach the manager before the conversation if needed
Escalate if conversation reveals something requiring formal process
🚨When to Escalate
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The employee discloses a safeguarding concern, serious misconduct, or a protected disclosure (whistleblowing) — stop the conversation, do not probe further, and contact HR immediately
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The employee becomes significantly distressed, discloses a mental health crisis, or mentions self-harm — pause the meeting, offer support, and involve HR and/or occupational health before continuing
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The conversation reveals information that changes the nature of the situation (e.g. performance concerns that are actually linked to a disability) — formal process may need to be redesigned before proceeding
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📋Step-by-Step Guide
1
Create a safe, private space for the initial conversation
If you notice signs of distress or an employee approaches you, your first priority is a private, unhurried conversation — not an immediate solution. Find a quiet room. Allow time. 'I've noticed you haven't seemed yourself recently and I wanted to check in. How are you doing?' is often all it takes to open the door.
2
Listen without jumping to fix
When an employee discloses mental health difficulties, the instinct to immediately offer solutions, reassurances, or referrals can shut the conversation down. First, listen fully. Acknowledge what you're hearing. 'Thank you for telling me. That sounds really difficult.' Then — and only then — ask what support they're looking for.
3
Ask what they need — do not assume
Some employees want practical adjustments. Some want signposting to support. Some want nothing except to be heard and to know it won't affect their standing. Ask: 'What would feel most helpful to you right now?' Respecting their agency is both the ethical and the practically effective approach.
4
Assess whether the condition may constitute a disability
Under the Equality Act 2010, a mental health condition that has a substantial and long-term adverse effect on normal day-to-day activities is a disability. If an employee's mental health condition meets this test, you have a legal duty to make reasonable adjustments. Consult HR immediately if you are uncertain.
5
Identify and implement reasonable adjustments
Reasonable adjustments are individual — there is no standard list. Common examples: temporary workload reduction, adjusted working hours, working from home, removal from a specific team or project, phased return after absence, regular check-ins with a named contact. Document all adjustments agreed and review them regularly.
6
Refer to appropriate support channels
Signpost to EAP (Employee Assistance Programme) if available — a confidential counselling and support service. Occupational Health for clinical assessment and formal fit-for-work advice. GP referral for formal diagnosis and treatment. Mental health first aider if the organization has one. Never refer directly to a clinical service without the employee's consent.
7
Agree a check-in rhythm and maintain it
Regular, low-pressure check-ins — weekly 10-minute catch-ups — provide continuity of support and signal that the employee is not forgotten. Ask how they are, not how their output is. Do not make check-ins feel like performance monitoring.
8
Manage performance concerns separately and carefully
If performance has been affected, do not address it in the same conversation as mental health support. Seek HR advice before initiating any formal performance process for an employee with a disclosed mental health condition — doing so without assessing reasonable adjustments first may constitute disability discrimination.
💬What to Say — Template Language
Opening a wellbeing check-in
"I wanted to check in with you — I've noticed you've seemed a bit under the weather recently and I just wanted to make sure you're okay. There's no pressure here, I just care about how you're doing."
Responding to a disclosure
"Thank you for trusting me with that. I can hear how much you've been carrying and I'm glad you told me. I'm not going to make any assumptions about what you need — can you tell me what would feel most helpful right now?"
Explaining reasonable adjustments
"Based on what you've told me, I'd like to put some adjustments in place to make things more manageable. These aren't permanent changes — we'll review them together in [timeframe]. Nothing about this affects your standing here."
When the employee wants no formal support
"I completely respect that. I just want you to know the door is open whenever you want to talk, and if anything changes — if you do want to explore some support options — come and find me."
Common Mistakes to Avoid
✓ Do this
Listen before problem-solving or referring
Ask what support they want rather than assuming
Keep disclosures strictly confidential
Assess reasonable adjustment obligations before any performance action
Maintain regular check-ins that are supportive, not surveillance
✗ Never do this
Tell the employee 'everyone feels like this sometimes'
Share the disclosure with their wider team or other managers
Initiate formal performance action without HR advice first
Assume the employee wants to be signed off or referred
Let the check-ins lapse once things appear to improve
⚖️Legal & Compliance — Select Jurisdiction
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
👥Manager vs HR Responsibilities
👥 Manager responsible for
Conduct initial wellbeing check-in
Implement and review agreed adjustments
Maintain regular check-ins
Notify HR when a disclosure is made
📋 HR responsible for
Advise on Equality Act obligations and reasonable adjustments
Commission occupational health referral if needed
Advise on any performance action and ensure adjustments are in place first
Maintain secure records of disclosures and adjustments
🚨When to Escalate
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The employee expresses thoughts of self-harm or suicide — do not leave them alone, contact HR and/or occupational health immediately, and ensure they are safe before the conversation ends
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The employee's condition appears to be deteriorating despite adjustments — escalate to occupational health for clinical assessment rather than continuing to manage informally
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You are unsure whether a performance concern is linked to a mental health condition — stop any formal process and seek HR and occupational health advice before proceeding
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📋Step-by-Step Guide
1
Establish clear absence reporting expectations
Every employee should know: who to contact, by when, and how, on each day of absence. This is not bureaucracy — it is the foundation of consistent, fair absence management. Communicate the process at induction and refresh it annually.
2
Conduct a return-to-work interview for every absence
A return-to-work interview is a brief (10–15 minute), informal, private conversation held on the first day back, regardless of absence length. It signals that absences are noticed, provides an opportunity to surface underlying issues, and is one of the most effective absence management tools available. Ask: 'How are you feeling? Is there anything work-related that contributed to your absence? Is there anything we can do to support you?'
3
Monitor for short-term absence patterns
Track absence frequency and duration by employee. Common triggers for formal review: Bradford Factor score threshold, three or more separate absences in a rolling 12-month period, or a pattern of specific days (always Monday/Friday). Patterns do not automatically mean abuse — they may indicate an underlying condition. Investigate before assuming.
4
Manage long-term absence proactively
For absences exceeding four weeks, maintain regular (fortnightly) contact with the employee — not to pressure return, but to stay connected, provide support, and gather information needed for planning. Commission an occupational health assessment at 4–6 weeks to advise on prognosis, likely return date, and recommended adjustments.
5
Obtain and act on fit notes
A fit note from a GP certifies either that the employee is not fit for any work, or that they may be fit for some work with adjustments. When a fit note specifies adjusted duties, HR and manager must consider these seriously — refusing to accommodate fit note recommendations without a valid reason creates legal risk.
6
Design and implement phased return
A phased return allows an employee to return gradually — starting on reduced hours, lighter duties, or fewer days, building up over an agreed period. It must be documented: what hours/duties will be worked each week, the planned build-up, and the expected full-return date. Review at each phase point.
7
Hold a formal absence management meeting when triggers are met
When absence triggers are met, a formal (but not disciplinary) absence management meeting should be held. The purpose: to understand the reasons for absence, explore what support the organization can provide, and agree a way forward. The tone is supportive, not accusatory.
8
Take formal action only when all support has been exhausted
Dismissal for ill-health capability is legally possible but must follow a fair process: sufficient warnings, consideration of reasonable adjustments, medical evidence, and a genuine belief that the employment relationship cannot be sustained. Always seek HR and legal advice before capability dismissal.
💬What to Say — Template Language
Return-to-work interview opener
"Welcome back — it's good to see you. I just wanted to have a quick chat to make sure you're feeling okay and to check whether there's anything work-related we should be aware of or anything we can do to support you."
Keep it conversational. It is not an interrogation.
Requesting an occupational health referral
"Given the length of your absence, I'd like to refer you to our occupational health provider — they can give us some independent advice on how best to support your return and what adjustments might be helpful. You'll receive a copy of any report they produce."
Always explain the purpose and confirm the employee will see the report.
Explaining a phased return
"We'd like to support you back to work gradually. We're proposing [specific hours/days] for the first two weeks, building up to full hours by [date]. We'll review at each stage and adjust if needed."
Common Mistakes to Avoid
✓ Do this
Hold a return-to-work interview for every absence
Document all absence conversations and agreements
Commission occupational health at 4–6 weeks of long-term absence
Review and act on fit note recommendations
✗ Never do this
Assume absence patterns mean misconduct without investigation
Contact employees on sick leave too frequently or pressure early return
Skip return-to-work interviews for 'short' or 'familiar' absences
Ignore fit note recommendations — this creates Equality Act risk
⚖️Legal & Compliance — Select Jurisdiction
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
👥Manager vs HR Responsibilities
👥 Manager responsible for
Conduct return-to-work interviews
Maintain regular contact during long-term absence
Implement adjustments agreed with occupational health
Monitor and flag when triggers are met
📋 HR responsible for
Advise on process and legal obligations
Commission occupational health referral
Attend formal absence management meetings
Advise on capability process if required
🚨When to Escalate
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Absence is linked to a workplace dispute, grievance, or stress claim — manage through a separate process; do not treat as straightforward ill-health absence
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Occupational health advises that the employee is unlikely to return to their current role within a reasonable timeframe — capability process should be considered with full HR and legal input
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The employee raises a disability or Equality Act concern during absence management — pause the process and seek HR and legal advice before any further steps
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📋Step-by-Step Guide
1
Establish a genuine redundancy situation
Redundancy is legally defined: the business is closing, a workplace is closing, or the requirement for work of a particular kind has diminished. Redundancy must be genuine — using it to remove an unwanted employee without a real business reason is unfair dismissal and creates significant tribunal risk.
2
Determine collective consultation obligations
If 20 or more redundancies are proposed within 90 days at one establishment: 30-day minimum consultation period (100+ redundancies = 45 days). Notify the Secretary of State via HR1 form before consultation begins. Failure to comply creates automatic awards of up to 90 days' pay per employee at tribunal.
3
Define the pooling and selection criteria
Identify which roles are at risk — the redundancy pool. Apply objective, measurable, non-discriminatory selection criteria: skills and qualifications relevant to future needs, performance record, attendance, disciplinary record. Never use protected characteristics, pregnancy, or trade union activity as criteria. Document every scoring decision.
4
Hold individual 'at risk' consultation meetings
Each employee at risk must be individually consulted — informed of the risk, the selection criteria, their provisional score, and given a genuine opportunity to propose alternatives (reduced hours, redeployment, voluntary redundancy). Consultation must be meaningful, not a formality.
5
Explore suitable alternative employment
Before confirming any redundancy, genuinely search for and offer any suitable alternative employment across the organization. If a suitable role is offered and unreasonably refused, the employee may lose their statutory redundancy pay entitlement. Document all alternatives offered and the employee's response.
6
Confirm redundancy in writing
Once the process is complete, issue a written notice of redundancy confirming: the reason, notice period, redundancy pay calculation, right of appeal, and final working day. Redundancy letters must be clear, factual, and treated with the dignity the situation deserves.
7
Calculate and pay statutory redundancy pay
Employees with 2+ years' continuous employment are entitled to statutory redundancy pay calculated by: age × years of service × weekly pay (capped at current weekly pay limit). Pay on or before the last day of employment. Check whether your organization has an enhanced scheme.
8
Hold exit and support conversations
The final days matter as much as the process. Offer outplacement support, reference letters, extended access to EAP, and a genuine conversation about what the organization can do to support the transition. How employees experience the end of employment is what they tell others.
💬What to Say — Template Language
Opening the 'at risk' meeting
"I need to share some difficult news with you today. [Explain business reason.] As a result, your role is at risk of redundancy. I want to be clear — this is not a decision that has been made. It is the start of a consultation process and your input matters."
Explaining the selection process
"We've identified a pool of roles for consideration. We'll be using the following criteria to assess suitability for any available roles: [criteria]. I'll share your provisional scores with you and you'll have the opportunity to respond before any decisions are made."
Confirming redundancy
"I need to confirm today that unfortunately your role has been made redundant. I want to say how much we value everything you have contributed. Your notice period begins today, and we will provide [support details]. You have the right to appeal this decision within [timeframe]."
Common Mistakes to Avoid
✓ Do this
Establish a genuine business reason before beginning the process
Consult meaningfully — not as a formality after a decision is made
Apply objective, documented selection criteria
Offer and document all suitable alternative employment
Pay correct statutory or enhanced redundancy pay
✗ Never do this
Select for redundancy based on subjective criteria or personal preference
Use redundancy to manage out a poor performer — this is unfair dismissal
Forget collective consultation obligations for 20+ redundancies
Ignore the HR1 notification requirement
Skip the individual consultation meetings, even for small redundancies
⚖️Legal & Compliance — Select Jurisdiction
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
👥Manager vs HR Responsibilities
👥 Manager responsible for
Communicate business rationale to the team
Conduct individual consultation meetings with HR support
Explore redeployment opportunities within their remit
Support employees through the process with empathy
📋 HR responsible for
Design and own the legal process
Ensure collective consultation obligations are met
Calculate and verify redundancy pay
Draft and review all formal written communications
Advise on selection criteria and scoring
🚨When to Escalate
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An employee at risk is pregnant, on maternity leave, or has recently raised a grievance or whistleblowing concern — enhanced protections apply and specialist HR/legal advice is needed before proceeding
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An employee challenges their selection score or the fairness of the pool — pause the process, review the scoring with HR, and respond formally before proceeding
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The number of proposed redundancies reaches 20+ in a 90-day period and collective consultation has not been set up — stop all individual consultations and seek urgent legal advice
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📋Step-by-Step Guide
1
Pre-boarding: prepare before Day 1
Send a welcome email within 48 hours of offer acceptance — introduce yourself, explain what to expect on Day 1, and confirm logistics. Ensure IT access is provisioned before Day 1 (not on the day). Share any reading materials, org charts, or team intros in advance. A new hire who arrives to find their laptop isn't set up has already had their first negative experience.
2
Day 1: belonging before information
Day 1 should create connection, not overwhelm. Introduce the new hire to the team personally. Ensure the manager (not a receptionist) greets them. Have their workspace ready. Share the plan for the first week. Do not spend Day 1 delivering HR information overload — spread compliance training over the first two weeks.
3
First week: role clarity and first wins
By the end of week one, the new hire should understand: who they report to and how they prefer to communicate, what their first 30 days should produce, who the key relationships in their role are, and where to go when they need help. Assign a first small task they can complete successfully within days — early wins build confidence and belonging.
4
Assign a buddy
A buddy is a peer (not their manager) who is available for informal questions, cultural orientation, and social connection. A good buddy answers the questions a new hire would never ask their manager. Brief the buddy on what the role involves and check in with both parties at the two-week mark.
5
30-day check-in with manager and HR
At 30 days: structured conversation covering how the role matches expectations, what has gone well, what is unclear or difficult, and whether any adjustments are needed. This is not a performance review — it is a support and retention conversation. Identify and address any concerns before they become reasons to leave.
6
60-day development conversation
At 60 days: transition from settling-in to growing. Discuss how the new hire wants to develop, what opportunities exist, and what their goals are for the remainder of probation. This conversation signals that the organization is invested in their future, not just their immediate output.
7
90-day review: probation decision
A structured review of performance against the expectations set at the start of the probation period. The outcome should not be a surprise — if concerns exist, they should have been raised and addressed during the 30 and 60-day conversations. Probation can be extended with valid reason and proper communication.
8
Confirm employment or manage probation exit
If confirming: issue a written confirmation letter. If ending employment during probation: follow a fair process — at least one formal meeting, written confirmation, and a notice period (contractual or statutory). Even during probation, dismissal for discriminatory reasons is unlawful from day one of employment.
💬What to Say — Template Language
Pre-boarding welcome email subject and opener
"Subject: We're looking forward to welcoming you on [date] — Body: I wanted to reach out personally to say how excited we are to have you joining us. Here's what to expect on your first day…"
Buddy introduction
"I'd like to introduce you to [Name] — they've offered to be your go-to person for the first few months. No question is too small. Think of them as your unofficial guide to how things actually work around here."
30-day check-in opener
"Now that you've had a chance to settle in, I wanted to check in properly. How are you finding things? What's clicked, and what's felt unclear or tricky? And is there anything we could do differently to support you?"
Common Mistakes to Avoid
✓ Do this
Ensure IT access and workspace are ready before Day 1
Have the manager personally greet the new hire
Spread compliance training over the first two weeks
Schedule 30/60/90 check-ins before Day 1
Assign a buddy in advance, not on the day
✗ Never do this
Overwhelm Day 1 with information and HR paperwork
Assume the new hire will ask if they need help — they often won't
Leave the 30-day check-in until week six
Treat probation review as the first time concerns are raised
Forget that Equality Act protections apply from day one
⚖️Legal & Compliance — Select Jurisdiction
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
👥Manager vs HR Responsibilities
👥 Manager responsible for
Personally greet and welcome the new hire
Set clear 30-day expectations in the first week
Conduct 30/60/90 check-ins
Raise and manage any performance concerns during probation
📋 HR responsible for
Complete right-to-work checks before Day 1
Ensure written statement of terms is issued on Day 1
Coordinate IT access and logistics pre-boarding
Support probation process and advise on any extension or exit
🚨When to Escalate
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The new hire discloses a disability, health condition, or pregnancy during onboarding — reasonable adjustment assessment and enhanced support should be initiated immediately
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Performance or conduct concerns arise during probation — document, address formally in a meeting, and seek HR advice before making any dismissal decision
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The new hire raises a concern about the role not matching what was described at interview — address this promptly; if substantiated, it may constitute a misrepresentation with legal implications
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📋Step-by-Step Guide
1
Rule out external causes first
Before raising performance concerns formally, investigate whether the performance issue has an external cause: unclear expectations, inadequate training, personal circumstances, a health condition, team dynamics, or management factors. A PIP issued without this investigation is not only unjust — it is legally vulnerable.
2
Start with an informal, clear conversation
Raise concerns early and informally — before they become formal. Be specific: 'The last three project reports have been submitted late and with incomplete sections. I want to understand what's happening and what we can do to get things back on track.' Clear, factual, and forward-looking.
3
Set clear, agreed SMART expectations
Whether informal or formal, performance must be measured against specific, agreed, achievable standards. 'You need to improve' is not a performance standard. 'All project reports submitted by the agreed deadline with sections 1–5 fully completed, for the next four weeks' is. Write it down and share it.
4
Provide support alongside expectations
Every performance expectation must be paired with support: additional training, a coach or buddy, increased check-in frequency, revised workload, or clearer briefings. Holding someone to a standard without providing the means to reach it is not performance management — it is set-up to fail.
5
Document all informal conversations
Even informal performance conversations must be documented with a brief factual record: date, what was discussed, what was agreed, and by when. This is not punitive — it creates clarity for both parties and protection for both parties if the situation escalates.
6
Move to formal capability if informal stage fails
If the informal stage does not produce improvement within a reasonable timescale, escalate to a formal capability meeting. Issue written invitation with at least 5 working days' notice, confirming: the concerns, the basis for the formal process, and the right to be accompanied.
7
Issue a formal Performance Improvement Plan (PIP)
A PIP is not a punishment — it is a structured support document. It must include: specific performance standards, the support being provided, a review timeline (typically 4–8 weeks), what improvement is required by when, and what the consequences of failure to improve are. PIPs must be realistic, not designed to fail.
8
Review and conclude the process
At the end of the PIP period: if performance has improved, confirm this in writing and close the process formally. If not, hold a formal outcome meeting and issue an appropriate sanction (written warning, final warning, or — at formal stage — capability dismissal). Always confirm a right of appeal.
💬What to Say — Template Language
Informal performance conversation opener
"I want to talk about [specific area] because I've noticed [specific observation] and I'm concerned about [specific impact]. I want to understand your perspective on this and then we can agree together what would help get things on track."
Issuing a formal PIP
"I'm sharing this Performance Improvement Plan with you today. I want to be clear that the purpose of this is to support you — it sets out exactly what we need to see and what we're going to provide to help you get there. I hope we don't need to go beyond this stage."
Closing a successful PIP
"I wanted to formally confirm that you've met the standards set out in your improvement plan. The concerns that led to this process have been addressed and I'm closing this formally today. Let's focus on building from here."
Common Mistakes to Avoid
✓ Do this
Investigate underlying causes before any formal action
Set specific, written, agreed performance standards
Pair every expectation with genuine support
Document all conversations, even informal ones
Allow a meaningful improvement period with regular check-ins
✗ Never do this
Issue a PIP without any prior informal conversation
Set standards that are impossible to meet within the timeframe
Use performance management as a managed exit when the real issue is redundancy
Forget to investigate whether a health condition may be relevant
Dismiss without a formal process, even during probation
⚖️Legal & Compliance — Select Jurisdiction
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
👥Manager vs HR Responsibilities
👥 Manager responsible for
Identify and raise performance concerns early
Conduct informal conversations and document them
Implement and review the PIP in practice
Provide agreed support and check in regularly
📋 HR responsible for
Advise on whether informal or formal process is appropriate
Draft or review PIP content for fairness and legal compliance
Chair or attend formal capability meetings
Advise on outcome and any sanction including dismissal
🚨When to Escalate
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The employee discloses a health condition or disability during or before the performance process — pause formal action, assess reasonable adjustments with occupational health, and seek HR advice
🚨
The employee raises a grievance during the performance process — the processes can run in parallel but must be kept separate; take HR advice on sequencing and management
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The performance issue may actually be a conduct issue (deliberate non-compliance vs capability) — the correct process is disciplinary, not capability; using the wrong process creates an unfair dismissal risk
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📋Step-by-Step Guide
1
Receive the concern with genuine openness
When a DEIB concern is raised — whether formally or informally — your first response sets the tone for everything that follows. Avoid: minimising ('are you sure they meant it that way?'), deflecting ('we have a policy for this'), or over-promising. Do: listen, thank them for raising it, and confirm what happens next.
2
Determine the nature and severity of the concern
DEIB concerns span a wide spectrum: a single microaggression, a pattern of exclusionary behaviour, direct discrimination, harassment under the Equality Act, or structural inequity in a process. The right response depends on the nature of the concern. A single comment warrants a different process than a systematic promotion gap.
3
Assess whether the Equality Act applies
Discrimination claims under the Equality Act cover: direct discrimination, indirect discrimination, harassment, and victimisation — across nine protected characteristics (age, disability, gender reassignment, marriage/civil partnership, pregnancy/maternity, race, religion/belief, sex, sexual orientation). Assess whether the concern may constitute a legal claim and involve HR immediately if so.
4
Separate immediate support from investigation
The person raising the concern needs support regardless of whether a formal investigation takes place. Confirm confidentiality (to the extent possible), ask what they need right now, and ensure they are not placed in contact with the subject of the complaint during any investigation.
5
Choose the right response level
Informal resolution: for lower-level concerns (a single microaggression, unintentional behaviour) — a facilitated conversation with an HR or DEIB lead, or a manager-led conversation with the individual. Formal investigation: for serious or repeated concerns, direct discrimination, or harassment — appoint an investigator, follow a fair process, and interview all parties.
6
Conduct the investigation fairly for all parties
The subject of a complaint has a right to know what is alleged against them (without necessarily knowing who raised it at the early stage), to respond, and to be treated as innocent until findings are established. Bias in the investigation process — in either direction — undermines both fairness and legal defensibility.
7
Act on findings and communicate outcomes
Where a concern is upheld: disciplinary action proportionate to the severity of the conduct, required training, monitoring, and a follow-up with the complainant. Where a concern is not upheld: still confirm the outcome in writing, still explore whether a cultural or process issue may be present, and never treat a complaint that is not upheld as automatically vexatious.
8
Address the systemic dimension
Individual complaints are data points. Recurring concerns in the same team, about similar behaviours, or from employees sharing a characteristic, signal a systemic issue that requires a cultural or structural response — not just case-by-case resolution.
💬What to Say — Template Language
Receiving the concern
"Thank you for raising this with me — I know that wasn't easy and I want you to know it will be taken seriously. Can you tell me what happened? And while I'm listening, I want to understand what you're hoping we can do as a result."
Explaining next steps
"I'd like to look into this properly. Here's what that process involves and what you can expect at each stage. I'll keep you informed at every point. If at any point you want a different contact person or additional support, please let me know."
Sharing an upheld outcome with the complainant
"I wanted to confirm that following our investigation, your concern has been upheld. Action has been taken — I can't share the details of what that action is, but I want you to know the situation has been addressed. I'd also like to ask how you're doing and whether there's anything further we can do to support you."
Common Mistakes to Avoid
✓ Do this
Receive all concerns with genuine openness, regardless of severity
Separate support from investigation from the start
Investigate fairly — all parties deserve due process
Act on findings and confirm the outcome to the complainant
Look for systemic patterns beyond individual complaints
✗ Never do this
Minimise the concern ('I'm sure they didn't mean it that way')
Share the complainant's identity with the subject before necessary
Treat an unsubstantiated complaint as automatically vexatious
Confuse unconscious bias with deliberate discrimination in your response
Close the matter after individual action without asking if patterns exist
⚖️Legal & Compliance — Select Jurisdiction
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
👥Manager vs HR Responsibilities
👥 Manager responsible for
Receive informal concerns and refer to HR immediately
Avoid taking unilateral action before HR advice
Ensure the complainant and subject are not placed in direct conflict
Follow HR guidance on communication during the process
📋 HR responsible for
Lead all formal investigations or appoint investigator
Advise on Equality Act obligations
Manage the process, timelines, and communications
Advise on outcome and any disciplinary action
Identify and address systemic patterns
🚨When to Escalate
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The complaint involves a senior leader, a manager in the HR team, or someone with direct authority over the investigation — appoint an independent external investigator to avoid conflict of interest
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The complaint may involve criminal conduct (assault, serious harassment, hate crime) — contact legal counsel and consider whether a police report is appropriate
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The complaint reveals a systemic pattern affecting multiple employees — a single-case investigation is insufficient; a broader audit or culture review should be initiated
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📋Step-by-Step Guide
1
Intervene early — do not wait for it to become formal
Most workplace conflicts are cheaper, faster, and less damaging to resolve early. When a manager or HR notices tension between employees — changed body language, communication breakdowns, complaints from others — the time to act is immediately, not after a formal grievance arrives. A 15-minute conversation now can prevent a three-month investigation later.
2
Diagnose before intervening
Before approaching either party, understand the nature of the conflict. Is it: personality/style clash, a specific incident or perceived injustice, competition over resources or recognition, a values difference, or a historical grievance that has compounded over time? The diagnosis shapes the intervention.
3
Meet with each party individually first
Speak to each party separately before bringing them together. Purpose: understand each person's perspective, establish what they want from the situation, and identify common ground. Approach: curious, neutral, listening. Do not share one party's account with the other at this stage.
4
Determine whether informal resolution or formal process is appropriate
Informal resolution (manager-facilitated conversation or HR-facilitated mediation): suitable for interpersonal conflict without a legal dimension. Formal grievance process: required when one or both parties allege a breach of policy, discrimination, harassment, or bullying. Do not push informal resolution when the concern has a formal legal dimension.
5
Facilitate mediation if both parties agree
Mediation is a voluntary, confidential process facilitated by a neutral third party (HR or external mediator) where both parties agree to explore resolution. It is significantly more effective than formal investigation for interpersonal conflict. Both parties must enter it voluntarily — mediation coerced is mediation that will not work.
6
Manage the formal grievance if raised
If a formal grievance is raised: acknowledge receipt within 5 working days, appoint an investigating manager, hold a grievance hearing, investigate the facts, and issue a written outcome within a reasonable timeframe. Both parties must be treated fairly throughout the process.
7
Address the team impact
Workplace conflict between two employees almost always affects the wider team — through changed dynamics, factional behaviour, and accumulated stress. Even after resolution, a team conversation (without discussing the specifics) may be needed to rebuild cohesion and clear the air.
8
Restore the working relationship — do not just end the process
A conflict that is 'resolved' on paper but leaves two people unable to work together has not been resolved. A restoration conversation — facilitated by HR or an independent manager — focused on agreeing professional working norms going forward is often the most important step, and the most commonly skipped.
💬What to Say — Template Language
Opening an individual conversation
"I've noticed there seems to be some tension between you and [colleague] and I wanted to check in. I'm not making any assumptions about what's happened — I just want to understand your perspective. What's going on from your point of view?"
Proposing mediation
"I'd like to suggest mediation — it's a voluntary, confidential conversation with a neutral facilitator where both of you can share your perspectives and work toward an understanding. There's no obligation, but it often helps. Would you be open to it?"
Restoration conversation opener
"Today isn't about revisiting what happened — that's been dealt with through a separate process. Today is about agreeing how you're both going to work together professionally going forward. What would need to be true for that to work?"
Common Mistakes to Avoid
✓ Do this
Intervene early — conflict left unmanaged always escalates
Meet both parties individually before any joint conversation
Remain genuinely neutral — do not pre-judge
Facilitate restoration, not just formal resolution
Address team impact after individual resolution
✗ Never do this
Tell one party what the other said before they've met jointly
Pressure mediation — it only works when genuinely voluntary
Confuse a personality clash with misconduct (different processes)
Assume formal resolution = working relationship restored
Ignore the conflict because 'they're both professionals'
⚖️Legal & Compliance — Select Jurisdiction
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
👥Manager vs HR Responsibilities
👥 Manager responsible for
Identify conflict early and notify HR
Hold initial individual conversations
Implement agreed working adjustments
Lead the restoration conversation with HR support
📋 HR responsible for
Advise on whether informal or formal process is appropriate
Facilitate or commission mediation
Manage the formal grievance process if raised
Advise on legal dimensions and documentation
🚨When to Escalate
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The conflict involves allegations of harassment, bullying, or discrimination under the Equality Act — formal investigation is required immediately; do not attempt informal resolution
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One or both parties is the manager of the other — the power dynamic requires HR to lead the process, not the manager above them
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The conflict has become public, factional, or is affecting the functioning of the wider team — HR must take active ownership; manager-led resolution is no longer sufficient
📋Step-by-Step Guide
1
Know your legal obligations from day one
Since April 2024, employees have the right to request flexible working from their first day of employment (previously 26 weeks). They can make two statutory requests per year. The employer must respond within two months. There is no automatic right to flexible working — but there is an automatic right to have the request properly considered.
2
Meet with the employee before making any decision
Before deciding, hold a meeting with the employee to understand their proposal, explore whether alternatives might work, and discuss any operational concerns. This meeting is not a formality — it is often where creative solutions emerge. It also demonstrates that the request was genuinely considered.
3
Assess operational impact rigorously and honestly
Consider: the effect on the team's ability to deliver its work, customer service requirements, impact on other employees, ability to reorganise work, and whether a trial period would reduce the risk of a permanent commitment. Be specific — 'it won't work' is not a sufficient assessment and will not hold up if challenged.
4
Approve, agree a trial, or refuse on one of eight grounds only
A refusal must be based on one or more of eight statutory grounds: burden of additional costs; detrimental effect on ability to meet customer demand; inability to reorganise work among existing staff; inability to recruit additional staff; detrimental impact on quality; detrimental impact on performance; insufficiency of work during proposed hours; planned structural changes. Any other reason is unlawful.
5
Check for indirect discrimination before refusing
A refusal may be indirectly discriminatory if it disproportionately disadvantages a group sharing a protected characteristic — most commonly women (who are more likely to have caring responsibilities) or disabled employees (who may need flexibility for medical reasons). If the refusal has a disparate impact, it must be objectively justified. Seek HR advice.
6
Issue the decision in writing within two months
Provide a written response within two months of the request date (including the meeting). If approving: confirm the new arrangements and effective date. If refusing: state the specific statutory ground(s) relied on, with reasons. The reasons must be specific to the employee's role and situation — not generic statements.
7
Implement with a structured transition
If approved: plan the transition carefully — communicate to the team, adjust workload expectations, agree check-in points, and confirm IT/operational arrangements. Avoid presenting flexible working as a burden to the team — how it is communicated shapes how it is received.
8
Review and normalise
Review flexible working arrangements at 3 and 6 months. If working well, confirm permanently. If issues have emerged, address them through a structured conversation — not by unilaterally withdrawing the arrangement. Normalise flexible working across the team to avoid a two-tier culture.
💬What to Say — Template Language
Opening the flexible working discussion
"Thank you for your request — I want to make sure we consider it properly. Can we meet to talk through your proposal? I'd like to understand what you're asking for and what's driving it, and then we can explore together what might be possible."
When the request can be approved
"I'm pleased to confirm that your flexible working request has been approved. The new arrangements will be: [details], starting from [date]. I'll confirm this in writing and we'll check in at 3 months to make sure it's working well for you and the team."
When the request is refused
"I've given your request careful consideration and I'm unable to approve it on the grounds of [specific statutory ground] because [specific, role-related reason]. I know this is disappointing. You have the right to appeal this decision within [timeframe] if you wish to do so."
Common Mistakes to Avoid
✓ Do this
Hold a meeting before deciding — do not refuse by email
Apply one of the eight statutory grounds with specific written reasons
Check for indirect discrimination before any refusal
Respond within two months of the request date
Include a right of appeal in any refusal letter
✗ Never do this
Refuse without a substantive meeting and proper consideration
Use reasons outside the eight statutory grounds
Assume a refusal won't be challenged or is automatically fair
Allow informal flexible working without confirming it in writing
Create a two-tier culture where some roles 'can't' be flexible without evidence
⚖️Legal & Compliance — Select Jurisdiction
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
👥Manager vs HR Responsibilities
👥 Manager responsible for
Hold the initial meeting with the employee
Assess operational impact of the proposed arrangement
Propose alternatives or trial periods if appropriate
Implement and review approved arrangements
📋 HR responsible for
Advise on statutory process and timelines
Check for indirect discrimination risk before refusal
Draft or review the written decision
Advise on any appeal
🚨When to Escalate
🚨
A refusal may indirectly discriminate against a protected group — do not proceed without HR and, if necessary, legal advice on objective justification
🚨
The employee has a disability and the flexible working request is related to a medical need — the request may also be a reasonable adjustment request under the Equality Act, which has a different and stronger legal framework
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The employee appeals a refusal — HR must manage the appeal with a different manager from the original decision-maker
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📋Step-by-Step Guide
1
Receive the resignation professionally
Your immediate response to a resignation shapes the rest of the process and the employee's final impression. Thank them for letting you know, acknowledge the decision with respect, confirm the process that will follow, and do not make the conversation awkward or create pressure. Even if you are disappointed, the professional response protects the relationship and the employer brand.
2
Confirm the resignation in writing
Request or issue a written confirmation of resignation including: the date given, the notice period, the last day of employment, and any conditions (e.g. garden leave, restrictive covenants). Confirm in writing even if the resignation was verbal — this protects both parties.
3
Consider whether a counter-offer is appropriate
Counter-offers sometimes work — but research consistently shows that more than 80% of employees who accept a counter-offer leave within 12 months, often for the same underlying reasons. Before making one, understand why the employee is leaving. If the reason is a fixable structural issue (pay, title, team), a counter may be worth exploring. If the reason is culture, management, or career trajectory, a counter-offer is rarely the answer.
4
Plan and execute knowledge transfer
For every departure, identify: what knowledge only this person holds, what documentation is missing, what relationships need transitioning, and what handover activity must happen before they leave. A structured handover plan with named tasks and deadlines prevents the inevitable post-departure scramble.
5
Conduct a genuine exit interview
An exit interview is a structured conversation (or survey) to understand why the employee is leaving and what the organization could improve. It is only valuable if: it is conducted by someone neutral (HR, not the line manager), responses are analysed in aggregate, and themes are fed back to leadership with action recommendations. An exit interview that generates data nobody reads is worse than no exit interview.
6
Manage the notice period professionally
The notice period is still employment. Maintain professional standards: do not isolate the leaver, exclude them from communications, or make the period uncomfortable. Garden leave (where the employee is asked to stay away from the office but remains employed and on pay) is an option where there are legitimate business reasons such as access to sensitive information.
7
Complete all final pay and administrative obligations
Final pay must include: all outstanding salary, holiday pay for any accrued but untaken leave, any contractual bonuses earned to date, and expenses. Issue a P45 promptly. Deductions from final pay require explicit contractual authority — do not deduct training costs or notice pay shortfalls without legal advice.
8
Provide a reference — do not ghost a former employee
A reference should be factual and accurate: confirming dates of employment, job title, and key responsibilities at minimum. You are not obliged to provide a glowing reference, but you cannot provide a deliberately unfair or misleading one — to do so creates a defamation and negligent misstatement risk. A standard factual reference is always safer than silence.
💬What to Say — Template Language
Receiving the resignation
"Thank you for letting me know — I'm sorry to hear you're leaving, but I respect your decision. Can we find some time this week to talk through the handover plan and what the next few weeks will look like?"
Exit interview opener
"There are no right or wrong answers here — I'm genuinely interested in understanding your experience and what we could do better. Everything you share will be anonymised when I report back. What's been the biggest factor in your decision to move on?"
Reference confirmation to new employer
"[Name] was employed with us as [job title] from [start date] to [end date]. During this time, their key responsibilities included [2–3 key areas]. We wish them well in their next role."
Keep references factual. Only add more if you can substantiate it and are comfortable doing so.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
✓ Do this
Receive the resignation professionally and without pressure
Confirm resignation in writing with notice dates
Plan knowledge transfer immediately
Conduct exit interview with a neutral interviewer
Complete all final pay obligations correctly and on time
✗ Never do this
Make the leaver feel guilty, awkward, or excluded during notice
Deduct from final pay without contractual authority
Withhold a reference or provide a deliberately unfair one
Leave knowledge transfer until the last week
Lose the relationship — alumni are brand ambassadors and potential future hires
⚖️Legal & Compliance — Select Jurisdiction
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
This is general guidance only and does not constitute legal advice. Always consult a qualified employment lawyer in the relevant jurisdiction for specific situations.
👥Manager vs HR Responsibilities
👥 Manager responsible for
Receive the resignation and acknowledge professionally
Lead the knowledge transfer plan
Manage the notice period professionally
Conduct or delegate the handover tasks
📋 HR responsible for
Confirm resignation and notice period in writing
Conduct or coordinate the exit interview
Calculate and verify final pay
Issue P45 and confirm reference policy
🚨When to Escalate
🚨
The employee raises concerns during resignation (grievance, discrimination, whistleblowing) — do not treat as part of the offboarding; manage through the appropriate separate process
🚨
The employee has access to highly sensitive information or client relationships and you want to place them on garden leave — seek legal advice to confirm the garden leave clause is enforceable
🚨
A counter-offer is being considered for a senior or specialist employee — involve HR and the relevant business leader to assess the business case honestly before proceeding